·                                 Parents Born 23 Kids -

Mohd. Ishaq doesn’t remember the names of  his 23 kids or even recognize all of them. Yet, he is all set to welcome his 24th child  next year. MiD DAY meets the man, the machine and the family that does not believe in family planning

Love’s labor: Mohammad Ishaq and Bismillah with their family of 23 at a village in Mewat, Haryana

(Mewat, Haryana): A 40-year-old woman in Mewat district of Haryana gave birth to her 23rd child on Sunday. The baby was born to Bismillah (40) and Mohammad Ishaq (50) at the nearby Al-Afia Government Hospital in the district.

The couple were married in 1976 and since then, Bismillah has given birth to 23 children, the latest addition being a female child who was born on Sunday and named Shabira.

  God’s gifts

Speaking to MiD DAY, a happy and delighted father, Mohammad Ishaq said, “Yeh though sab Allah ki den hai, agar hamara chaubiswa baccha agle sal hua though woh bhi hum Allah ki den samjhenge. (All this is Allah’s gift. If we get a 24th child next year, we will welcome it too)”

  Too many to recall

However, when MiD DAY asked him the names of his children, Ishaq had to take help from his son and neighbors.

“I find it very difficult to remember their names as they all look the same,” he said.

Ishaq, builds thatched roofs in nearby villages and ferries goods for shops in the vicinity for a living.

Hoping for support

Bismillah the mother of 23 children, hopes that her children will take care of her. “I feed my children chicken, mutton and chivda, with my daughters helping me in the cooking,” she says.

Khuda ne sansar banaya aur so gaya,
khuda ne insan banaya aur fir so gaya,
Fir insan ne Mobile banaya. Na khud so soya
na dusaron ko sone diya.

khwabo aur khusiyon  ke jhulon mein zindagi guzre,
meri dua hai aapki foolon mein zindagi gujare.


for all my iland's frends.
thanks for ur supports
rgards
shraddha

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shraddha

WOH DIL HI KYA JO MILNE KI DUA NA KARE.
TUJHE BHUL KAR JIUN KHUDA NA KARE,
 RAHEGI TERI DOSTI MERI ZINDAGI BANKAR,
YE BAAT AUR HAI ZINDAGI WAFA KARE NA KARE.



THANKS & REGARDS
SHRADDHA

HI, MY Dear FRENDS,
            
                              TODAY I WANT  TO A QUESTION ACTUALY IT WAS DEBATE WITH ONE OF MY ILAND FREND ONLY HE FEELS THAT ONE BOY AND ONE GIRL CAN NEVER BE A FREND IF THEY WILL BE FREND THAN AFTER THERE WILL SOMETHING BETWEEN THEM.

BUT STRONGLY OPPOSED TO IT BUT I THINK FRENDSHIP AND LOVE THERE IS DIFFERENCE BETWEEN TOW OF IT.
WE SHOULD NOT MIX IT UP. AGAR LOGON KI SOACH AISI HOGI K EK LADAKA AUR LADKI DOST NAHO HO SAKTE TO DOSTI KI PARIBHASHA AUR PYAR KI PARIBHASHA BADAL JAEGI.
SO TEL ME YOU OPINIONS I M WAITING FOR RPLY.

THAKS & REGARDS
SHRADDHA.

Laws of Success

• Do you want something -- Will you pay the price.
• The great sin -- Gossip.
• The great crippler -- Fear.
• The greatest mistake -- Giving up.
• The most satisfying experience -- Doing your duty first.
• The best action -- Keep the mind clear and judgment good.
• The greatest blessing -- Good health.
• The biggest fool - The man who lies to himself.
• The great gamble -- Substituting hope for facts.
• The most certain thing in life -- Change.
• The greatest joy -- Being needed.
• The cleverest man -- The one who does what he thinks is right.
• The most potent force -- Positive thinking.
• The greatest opportunity -- The next one.
• The greatest thought -- God.
• The greatest victory -- Victory over self.
• The best play -- Successful work.
• The greatest handicap -- Egotism.
• The most expensive indulgence -- Hate.
• The most dangerous man -- The liar.
• The most ridiculous trait -- False pride.
• The greatest loss -- Loss of self confidence.

The greatest need -- Common sense.

 SO TRY THIS FORMULA AND HAVE A SUCCESS IN UR LIFE

Golden Rules for Finding Your Life Partner -

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone"; You need a lot more!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

Question - 1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage:

1. You can grow together, or
2. You can grow apart.

50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life!

Bottom line - Marry someone who wants the same thing.

Question - 2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

Question - 3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ";. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world -

1. People who are dedicated to personal growth and
2. People who are dedicated to seeking comfort.

Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

Question - 4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self- absorbed?

To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation?

If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

Question - 5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve"; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Another Perspective -

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.

Pay Attention -

• Which ones lift and which ones lean?
• Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
• Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?
• When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
• Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.

• Do you bring out the best in each other?
• Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
• What do you bring to the relationship?
• Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
• You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS -

1. Trust
2. Communication
3. Intimacy
4. A Sense of Humor
5. Sharing Tasks
6. Some get away time without Business or Children.
7. Daily Exchanges (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.)
8. Sharing Common Goals & Interests.
9. Giving each other space to grow without feeling Insecure.
10. Giving each other a sense of Belonging & Assurances of Commitment.

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.

• Life starts with a Voice but ends with Silence
• Love starts with a Fear but ends with Tears
• Friendship starts Anywhere and ends Nowhere

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THAKS & REGARDS
SHRADDHA